Happiness is Not Selfish

Happiness can feel really selfish.

We think that the focus on ourselves will take away from what we can give to others.

We think that if we choose happiness we are no longer able to empathize with those who are suffering.

We think that if we make decisions with our highest good in mind we may disappoint or hurt the people that matter the most.

The truth is – happiness is your birthright.

You deserve contentment, to live in the moment, to enjoy the life in front of you, to be worry free, and to be at peace.

Only YOU can make the choice to be happy; and, this decision – to be truly happy and put yourself first – is the best thing you can do for everyone around you.

Here’s why.

  1. You inspire others.

    When you are truly happy it gives other people permission to do the same. Where they see limitation, you show them possibility.

  2. You accept people for who they are.

    We want so badly to be liked and to be accepted that we’re used to editing who we really are. When you allow yourself to just be YOU, you are free, self-accepting, and nonjudgmental. People will flock to you because you will accept them for exactly who they are, no editing necessary.

  3. You take the burden off of others.

    When you take responsibility for your own happiness, you learn how to communicate your needs. People will never have to guess or try to figure out how you feel, which is exhausting (on both sides).

  4. You give your loved ones the best gift.

    It’s the best gift in the world when you see the people you love the most, happy, thriving, and totally free. Isn’t it? It’s the same for them.

  5. You’re able to give more.

    You cannot give without adequately receiving. When you continually ignore your own desires, you begin to feel resentful, disenchanted, hopeless, and frustrated. This is no place to give from. When you’re truly full, on the other hand, then you can really give. And you’ll be happy to do so.

  6. You’re less confrontational.

    Part of creating happiness is realizing that most things that people do and say have nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. When you take things less personally, you’re less likely to get angry, feel resentful, or cast blame.

  7. You’re better company.

    When you’re happier, you naturally see the best in people, you’re more magnetic, and just a pleasure to be around.

  8. You’re more appreciative.

    Appreciation breed happiness and happiness breeds appreciation. When you’re happy, you’ll feel and express more appreciation to the people around you.

  9. You’re okay with emotion.

    Part of choosing to be happy is learning to be okay with the human range of emotions. People will feel safer around you and more comfortable sharing their feelings with you.

  10. You’re more supportive.

    When you’re a proponent of your own dreams, you’re more supportive of everyone’s dreams. You see them as possible because you are living that possibility yourself.

Remember, when you make a decision that’s 100% for your own happiness and personal evolution, you make a decision that’s 100% for everyone around you.

If you want to be a more compassionate, understanding, supportive, and inspiring person for your friends and family, then that can only happen when you are feeling inspired and supported yourself.

Your happiness is truly the best for everyone around you.



PS – If you’re ready to prioritize yourself once and for all and intentionally create the life you long to live, then I invite you to a call with me.

No one can make you feel good enough or worthy enough or deserving enough of your dreams. Only you can do that. Only you can say yes to yourself.

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  • Kim

    Reply Reply January 27, 2016

    Thank you Jackie. I’m on my way home from work,checking my emails,and I came across yours titled Happiness is not Selfish.
    I started a new job in November,and I’m definitely not happy. I resigned twice,and I’m definitely leaving this week.
    I know my worth,know that I’m worthy,and do actually love myself now. That is why I no longer take any crap from ANYONE. (It feels good just to say it to myself)
    In the past I would stay in any situation because I wanted to be liked,and loved,but realised most of the time it was soon toxic.
    I have now got rid of the dead wood in my life,as devastating as it was at the time,buy I realised my happiness comes from within,and no longer allow myself to be manipulated.
    I now have good people on my life,who give and take in relationships.

    Thanks again


    • Jackie

      Reply Reply January 27, 2016

      That’s wonderful to hear, Kim! Great self-awareness of your own needs and how far you’ve come. You are very welcome.

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